I met a friend last week in an outdoor programme. She refuse to do things in front of me because she says that i might again wrote about her being OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) in my blog. Well..I’ll write anyway. Here i am again writing about the same topic that i personally think its common in women, OCD or perhaps PERFECTIONIST.
I pick this from a doctor..
“First, it is important to understand that human beings cannot be perfect. If you have a religious bent to your thinking and living, then realize that on the God can be perfect. Human beings are flawed creatures as are all other living creatures on this earth. That does not mean that we should not strive for excellence. However, there is a big difference between striving for excellence and striving for perfection. Excellence is attainable because, be definition, it allows for the fact that we will fall short of perfection. Excellence presumes that we are doing the best we can do on a project. In fact, excellence presumes that we are trying hard to do even better than we may have done in previous efforts.Because excellence is attainable, there is motivation in that direction. A job well done feels really good. That good feeling does not necessarily come from the praise of others, but from an inner feeling of satisfaction.
By contrast, the perfectionist never feels pride or satisfaction in a job well done because they never believe their job was done “well enough.” There can never be a good feeling about completing a project because the final project is viewed as imperfect, flawed, filled with errors.
To borrow an old saying, the perfectionist is like the “person who cannot see the forest for the trees.” In other words, there this is an individual who becomes so focused on the tiny details that they forget that there is a purpose to what they are doing. That is why some perfectionists become procrastinators. Filled with so much anxiety about having to do every little detail to perfection they become discouraged about ever starting their project. There are many candidates for Ph.D. degrees who never graduate. They complete all their course work, successfully finish all of their comprehensive exams and even successfully choose a topic for their research study, and never move beyond that point. Many of these are very brilliant people who stumble over perfectionism:
1. they doubt that they understand the material they are researching,
2. they doubt they can teach the material they are studying. Often, PhD candidates are allowed to teach undergraduate classes as a way of funding their advanced studies, 3. They doubt that their research is acceptable,
4. They believe they are frauds who have fooled everyone into believing they are smart and,
5. The list goes on endlessly. Another way of putting it is to say that the perfectionist is “always spinning his wheels but getting nowhere.”
SO..which one is you? Having an OCD or being a PERFECTIONIST.
Both can lead to a failure in life, work and especially relationship. I still concerned for those suffering from OCD as well as Perfectionist. I also sharing my life with one…Entahlah!!
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